Where are my Empath’s & HSP’s at?
If there is anything to take out of 2020, it’s that our world NEEDS more empathy.
I’ve been labeled as “too” sensitive by people my ENTIRE life.
I am both an Empath and an HSP – Highly Sensitive Person. As an empath, I have the ability to feel others emotions. This ability has been both a blessing and a curse. It’s a curse because I can’t ever turn it OFF. It’s a blessing because I can deeply understand others and genuinely connect with them.
As an HSP, I am often misunderstood and labeled as too “sensitive.” BUT I have the ability to process more information about the world than others do.
I’ve been this way for as long as I can remember, and it’s not been an easy path.
Growing up I was ALWAYS labeled as sensitive. By my family, my friends, and intimate partners. I used to hate myself for being this way. But now I LOVE every imperfection about myself. It’s not that I would always cry all the time, but I would take on the weight of other’s emotions and feel as if I were carrying their baggage in my backpack.
I always felt like an outcast because of this. I just knew that no one really understood what I was feeling. I knew that not everyone had this ability to really feel what other people were feeling.
I constantly tried to explain myself to others and say: “I am not overly sensitive, this is just how I am programmed!”
If you’re out there nodding along, because you resonate then keep reading…
I am going to dive deep into why I think being an empath and creating space for empaths is going to be the way forward for our world. It’s 2020, and quite frankly it’s obvious that the world needs more empaths. Did you know that empaths are the best leaders, friends, communicators and caretakers?
That’s because we have the ability to feel on so many different levels. So if you have people out there you know that are empath’s or HSP’s, then value and cherish them because they care about you deeply.
I’m not just saying that.
Empaths and HSPs are people who are deeply misunderstood.
Recently I was labeled as overly emotionally sensitive. Currently I am working in the Super Yacht Industry, and recently this industry has really taken a toll on me.
I’ve realized that not everyone is capable of feeling on my level, and not everyone understands the ups and downs of an empath’s life experience. Especially with yachting being a male dominated industry, men don’t always understand women who are highly sensitive.
How to thrive & survive as an Empath or HSP in the Yachting Industry:
Accept that not everyone is capable of feeling for others in the same way that you do.
Accept that not everyone will understand how to meet your needs and that is okay.
Accept people for who they are and do not try to change them.
Stay in your lane and spread your kindness onto others and allow them to mirror it back to you rather than trying to push it onto them.
Do not take things personally, but rather acknowledge your differences and move on.
Yes, we as women do tend to experience emotions differently and do tend to fluctuate in our moods, especially when we’re on our time of the month. But that doesn’t make us crazy or overly sensitive. We are who we are, and we should be able to unapologetically embrace and be who we are! And that’s what I’m diving deep into today.
So, why am I even talking about this? Well, I guess I’ve realized that over the years ever since I’ve started solo, traveling that being an empath and an HSP is something that I’ve embraced and embodied fully 100%.
I’ve come to accept the fact that not everyone is going to like me and not everyone is going to understand me. And that’s okay. I like myself, I love myself. I’ve become a confident, badass woman traveling solo around the world these last six years.
Truly, I have to thank solo traveling for my new found confidence and self love. I have grown into a woman who knows who she is, what she wants and where she is going.
How to thrive & survive as an empath & HSP as a solo traveler:
Accept people for who they are and do not try to change them.
Spread your love and kindness and expect it to be mirrored back to you.
Know that you WILL find your people out there and connect with them deeply.
Know that people will push you and challenge you, but it will make you stronger.
Do not ever dim your light. Shine it bright on others and choose who is in your circle.
I am proud to say that I am both an empath and an HSP. I am proud to connect with other women who also carry these traits within them. I want to empower and guide women like YOU into understanding that it’s okay to be this way.
Actually, it’s AMAZING to be this way because YOU ARE a leader.
You are a badass because you can feel and understand and connect with others so much deeper than most of the population can.
I’m always analyzing the world. I’m always feeling what other people are feeling. And that’s why I’ve allowed myself to naturally and organically come into this coaching business and create this amazing business for myself.
How my solo travels as an empath have led me to coaching women:
I’ve realized that as an empath and an HSP my calling and my purpose on this earth is to guide and empower women. Whether I’m teaching women how to travel solo, get into the yachting industry, go against the grain and become a nomad in order to go after their wildest dreams and do what they truly desire, it’s all work that I do with pure purpose and love.
I coach women to really step into being 100% their authentic and genuine selves. The key is to do this with a growth mindset, forgetting about what society, your friends or your family have to say. It’s about stepping into what feels truly aligned with you and going for it.
The fact that I have this unique gift and ability to really feel for others is what allows me to coach women to their fullest potential. In my past coaching sessions with my clients, this gift has aided in allowing these women to experience these breakthroughs within their mindset. I have been able to guide women down their path to transformation because I am understanding and compassionate to what they are going through. I ask them the hard open ended and vulnerable questions such as:
What is your dream? What do you want out of life? How can we get you there?
That is a little snippet of what I do in my coaching sessions and why I’m so passionate about it.
I am here to empower and guide other women to step into the best versions of themselves and go after their wildest nomadic dreams!
Why the World NEEDS more Empaths:
I truly believe that we need more empaths in this world because we NEED healers and we need guides.
2020 has been a crazy year in the sense that so much negativity has happened around us in our world.
From the bushfires to the plane crashes and a world pandemic taking over, it’s been a heavy and dark year. With so much of this negativity going around, it’s time to really acknowledge that it’s happening and make changes.
HOW can we do this? By stepping into ourselves and using our superpowers.
How can we make this world a better place?
I genuinely believe there is more good than bad, and we have the capabilities as a human race to turn things around.
You know, there are really ONLY two ways of thinking:
Optimistic Point of View
Pessimistic Point of View
Which one are you?
Unfortunately, a lot of people in this world truly believe it’s the end of the world, especially during these tough times. I completely feel for and understand that some people might not have it as easy as others.
They might not be a fortunate white woman such as myself, who is from Canada and currently living in America. They may not have the same opportunities to travel the world working on Superyachts while simultaneously running an online coaching business.
I don’t really have to worry about finances or debts and I don’t have any ties such as having kids.
Yes, I am blessed and I get that.
But there are also a lot of people out there who are also blessed and fortunate but still play into this “victim mentality.”
They feed themselves this narrative that everything is going wrong in our world. That nothing is fixable within the environment.
So who cares, right?
We might as well just keep using plastic and throwing it into the ocean…
Ultimately, you have the power to choose which of the two mindsets you wish to adopt. For myself, being an empath I have realized that I’ve shifted toward the more optimistic and positive mindset.
How I found my purpose and used my gift of being an empath to empower others:
When I started traveling solo, that’s when I recognized the power I had to be able to channel being both an empath and HSP and use it as my superpower. I realized how important deep and meaningful connections are for me. I realized why my stomach went to knots when I heard my family tell me that I should stay in Toronto and go down the cookie cutter path.
Although I had good friendships, I knew that there was more out in the world waiting for me. I had this deep urge and desire to connect on a deeper level with people from all over the world. When I immersed myself in new cultures and traveled solo for the first time at 22, that’s when this super power unleashed it’s full potential within me.
When I moved overseas to Australia all by myself, I was scared shitless to do it. You know, I was going against the grain. I was still going to do my teaching degree, but I was leaving family behind, my boyfriend at the time and my best friends. I was going off on this unknown adventure, but I just knew that there was something out there for me. I knew there was something greater.
There were some deep and meaningful connections that I needed to form and I just needed to get a one way ticket on a plane and just GO.
I knew that I was different. I knew that I was always the black sheep. And that’s exactly why it IS my brand.
This IS who I AM.
I am different, and I’m fucking proud of it.
As I started traveling and opening myself up to meeting new people, I really harnessed the power of empathy and being an HSP. I started to see the world in a more positive light. I started to see more good in the world and met amazing human beings because of my shifted mindset and spiritual awakening.
Yes, there are shitty human beings out in our world. But the fact is, we have the power to CHOOSE who we surround ourselves with. Even if you’re not an empath or an HSP, but you have people in your life that you know who are, then surround yourself with them because they want to make the world a better place and they truly care about others!
I know that I am here on this earth to make the world a better place in the sense of empowering and guiding others. If I can change one woman’s life, to help give her the push to do what I’ve done with my life and to really step into who they are truly meant to be…. then I will one day leave this earth happy. Really fucking happy!
Because that is my purpose. That is my true calling. I can feel it in my bones when I say it, I really can!
When I get off these coaching calls with my clients, I know that this is my WHAT.
This is what I’m meant to be doing.
You know, I get brought to tears sometimes when I see my clients have breakthroughs. And it’s because I feel I feel so much of what the other person feels. And really, it’s a blessing because I am able to do the healing work that I do. And I’m going to keep doing this for the rest of my life. And it’s only just the beginning of an extraordinary path that I have cultivated for myself.
So, getting back to being an empath that started solo traveling…
How can you thrive & survive as an empath on your nomadic adventures:
If you’re a woman who’s thinking about doing this and you are scared SHITLESS. Maybe you are an introvert thinking that you might get too emotional, scared or homesick…
You will become powerful and radiant and confident when you truly do what is uncomfortable. Embracing uncomfortability and welcoming those challenging and adverse situations into your life is what allows you to truly grow.
Putting myself in these uncomfortable situations and periods of growth is when I am able to truly embrace this power within myself. When I have traveled alone and began to meet new people, I really understood that forming deep and meaningful connections IS the ONLY way forward.
Understanding people, having those deep and tough conversations and not just the small talk is the purpose of human connection. Really getting deep and getting to know other people and what their story is gets me excited about this beautiful life.
That is what gets me pumped up about exploring this world as a solo traveler moving from place to place.
You know, I love connecting with others and hearing their stories. That’s why I’m sharing my story with you because I just feel that there are so many people out there who are too afraid to voice their opinions and feelings, keeping everything bottled up.
If you’re that person and you just feel like “I’m misunderstood. No one hears me!”
Then you need to get out there into the world and put yourself out there. And honestly, traveling by myself is what really brought me out of my shell.
I used to be an introvert. I used to be shit scared of going up to people, being in large groups and blending into the crowd. I hated it. And now I LOVE connecting with people. I love going up to someone and talking to them and, you know, diving straight in and getting deep and meaningful on them.
And yes, that might be intense for some individuals, and I’ve probably scared away more than one or two guys or girls, but I’m fine with it. Because if you’re not my person, then you’re not my person and no hard feelings.
Go do you. Be you!
We are all meant for different people and will ultimately connect better with some more than others. If you’re a woman who is resonating with this and really understands what I’m saying, as an empath, or an HSP or an introvert, then you KNOW that you are different.
You know that there is something deep inside of you. That is just waiting to be heard waiting to be understood. It’s like you’re keeping it all bottled up and you are just feeling a bit stuck right now where you are, you’re feeling like no one is ever going to understand what goes on in your head, or how you truly feel.
And girl, I have been there. Heck, I’m there even right now.
Working in the yachting industry isn’t as easy as it sounds, especially when you’re in a male dominated industry surrounded by people who are not all empaths or HSP’s because they don’t understand you. Personalities clash and it’s really hard to be your true authentic, genuine self when this is the kind of environment that you’re crammed into like a can of sardines.
And to be honest, this is how I’ve been feeling these last couple of weeks. I have felt really misunderstood. I feel like I haven’t been around my people.
With COVID it’s been really hard because I can’t travel anywhere right now like I did last year. You know, I can’t just go off on a backpacking adventure while most borders are still closed. But I can’t wait to get back out there and connect with the like minded people that I crave that deep connection with.
That’s exactly why I get so much out of my business. When I can connect with other women who really want to step into this BADASS version of who they are, THAT is what brings me ultimate joy and happiness. It really, really does.
What I’m trying to say here is that empaths and HSPs are misunderstood beings. They are amazing people. And I’m not just saying that because I am one.
I know a lot of other empaths and HSPs. I connect and resonate with those people. They are in my inner circle. They are my tribe and my vibe, and that’s who I want to surround myself with. As well as with people that understand empaths and HSPs. Even if you’re not one of US, then at least you understand our uniqueness. We are highly sensitive to feeling others emotions and understanding the world in a different way. It can be extremely overbearing at times, but it’s also an amazing gift like I said before.
So I want to wrap it up here and just say that I’ve really learned to harness this power
these last few years.
When I reflect on all my travels and all the experiences that I’ve had with all the people I’ve met, I recognize that I have ALWAYS opted in for the deep and meaningful conversations over the small talk. I never connected well with people who did small talk. I’m sorry, but I don’t have time for those people because that to me is more draining than sitting with someone for an hour and talking about the universe. I love talking about what it all means and what we want out of life and really getting DEEP. That to me is beautiful. That is why I do the work that I do because I want to empower other women to really embrace that way of thinking, feeling & expressing.
Especially women who are lacking confidence, women who have limiting beliefs around what they should be doing with their life vs. what others expect them to do with their life.
You have the power within you to do whatever it is that you desire. And I’ve realized that as an empath and an HSP I’m going to use this blessing as a GIFT to share with the world by guiding other women to step into the best versions of themselves, and to thrive as nomads.
I only work with women who are also connected to themselves and see themselves as divine and spiritual beings.
I’m going to end it here and say that the world needs more empathy. So, if you are an empath, then embrace that shit because you are a BADASS who is going to pave the way of the future.
Our world is going to shine brighter and it’s going to get better.
We need healer healers right now and we need those empaths.
If you want to work with me as your coach and mentor:
If you’re a woman who is seriously ready to step into yourself and go on this transformational journey, then head to my Work With Me page and book a Free clarity call to find out how I can mentor you on how to thrive and survive as a solo traveler or as someone transitioning into the yachting industry.
I really, really work deep on mindset and do a lot of spiritual work. It all comes from my gift of being an empath, my background in Psychology and teaching and my experience out in the world.
I promise you that my ability to feel for others is the reason why my clients believe in me and the work that I do because they know that I genuinely care and want to see them grow and succeed. I am attuned to their feelings and what they are going through in their lives.
I am your personal cheerleader and accountability buddy that will help get you to your goals and dreams!
September 3, 2020
WoW, while reading your article I felt EVERY single word as if I’d written myself. I’m 53 and have been a solo Nomad since June 2022 and have recently discovered what/who I am – an Empath (and I suspect I’m an HSP as well but unsure).
I feel naturally drawn to people who need me, actually I feel they are drawn to me. But, of course, so are narcissists. And for this reason I’m currently a broken Empath and now physically ill and riddled with Arthritis and other ailments that I’m learning was most likely caused by not knowing how to take care of myself ( I’m horrible at this but I’m trying to learn). But I feel sooooo strongly like I’m supposed to become some sort of life coach for women – my passion is to lift up and help to empower other women; mentally, physically and spiritually.
I’m on Disability but want and need to heal so I can sustain myself again.
Do you have any suggestions? I’m sorry to ask for free advise but I can’t afford coaching sessions.
Any information you can provide is truly appreciated and will be of great help, I’m certain.
Stay beautiful, blessed, and thank you for what you do for everyone- especially Women. (*heart hugz*)
Hi Shara, thank you so much for reading and taking the time to leave a comment. It was lovely to revisit my own blog for myself to see how much has evolved and changed for me. Thank you for sharing your story. I hear you when you say that you are going through these challenges and struggles being an empath, and your desire to help others. I believe that we can choose to transmute our pain into power to be of service to others. I would suggest checking out the Silva Method. You can find free information of YouTube on how to do this meditation. Vishen Lakhani (Founder of Mindvalley) talks about this a lot and I have shared this with many of my clients. I have used the power of visualization to heal many things in my body and mind, in order to manifest the life I have now. Please connect with me on IG and do follow along if you need more inspiration 🙂